Dating a friend of your ex
If your partner shares mutual friends with their ex, the two of them may make the decision to remain friends — especially if they run into each other fairly regularly.And as long as everyone's OK with it, then this type of friendship can be perfectly healthy.Once that's happened, they may decide to redefine their relationship and shift back into friendship mode."They are no longer a couple who are also friends, but instead friends who are not together as a couple," Joshua Klapow, Ph D, clinical psychologist and host of The Kurre and Klapow Show, tells Bustle."If they can find that new friendship, it is perfectly OK for them to be friends."When children are involved, you can only hope that your partner and their ex will remain friends and be on good terms — for the sake of everyone involved.
Whatever the case may be, "if your partner works with their ex, there is no way they will be able avoid seeing or talking to each other," Rappaport says.There may be consequences to your actions, but no one can tell you straight up, ‘No.'”She suggests discussing it with your friend and framing it in the context of consideration.“Say to them, ‘I have something I want to share with you and I’m very interested in how you feel about it because your feelings are important to me,'” she says.“That’s being considerate without having to ask someone if you’re ‘allowed’ to date this person.” Why do I have knee pain? (AP Photo/Patrick Semansky) " data-medium-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2019/08/njps407-818_2019_204344.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=300" data-large-file="https://shawglobalnews.files.wordpress.com/2019/08/njps407-818_2019_204344.jpg? quality=70&strip=all&w=1024" / Madeleine Westerhout, secretary to U. President Trump, stands outside the Oval Office at the White House in Washington, DC, USA, .“That’s silly because it implies that you own someone. “Any person who subscribes to a ‘code’ that says an ex is off-limits has control issues.”You may feel tempted to talk to your friend about potentially dating their ex and phrasing it in a way that implies you’re asking for their permission, but that’s not the right tactic, Sharma says.“Once you ask for permission, you’re giving up control and buying into the whole ‘code’ idea,” she says.“Everyone is free to date whomever they want and under any circumstance.