Dating a man with no job
But, if you put us on a leash, we’ll gnaw it off and go even more crazy once we’re free.
There are countless posts online where women complain about their deadbeat boyfriends for never paying for anything, never buying them gifts, always playing video games all day long while still living at home in their parent’s basement, and never holding on to a job for more than a year to save their lives.
It’s Just Lunch is a dating site that specializes mainly in setting up well-educated professionals, and the data comes from the responses of 925 single women (and an unknown number of men—the site hasn’t released that info) who responded to the site’s requests to participate in the survey.
The idea women are sending is that: A man who doesn’t have job and doesn’t have a solid plan to get one probably isn’t as desirable as a mate because he lacks ambition or intelligence or some other mysterious quality that we perceive as being necessary in our boyfriends. The Rise of Men’s Makeup) As much as the responses seem like they’re about money, they’re really about the qualities and values women want most in men, the thinking goes.
In addition to ambition and intelligence, being employed is also probably a sign of dependability—a guy who is able to show up for work on time should also be able to be punctual on dates and able to remember anniversaries and whatnot.
A much larger proportion of women (36%) prefer dates who own property.
Again, these numbers don’t necessarily mean that women put more of an emphasis on requiring their mates to be swimming in material goods and income.