Dating a newly separated guy
I definitely think people going through divorce, just like with ending any long-term relationship, need to take a good bit of time to heal, emotionally process the breakup, and both emotionally and physically separate themselves from their former partner.
However, I think it's only natural to eventually want to pursue romantic connection with other people again, and often the timing of feeling emotionally ready for that does not coincide with the timing of the legal divorce process.
It's safe to assume that most people can present themselves in a way that looks normal on Tinder. We then went out with friends, which was followed by beer and then going home. Me: slogging forward while missing my life in Oregon. In that twisted way, I started to fall for him, despite everything I knew about him. I wanted to move forward without being hung up on my last relationship. I expected it to be easy, and I wanted him to help me get over my ex. Side chick status until tomorrow." Maybe it was the way we crossed into territory when he said they weren't sleeping together anymore (although he was spending some nights at the house.) Maybe it was when I blushed at the thought of him. Maybe it was the way he was with his son that made me love him. It was the way I knew he was lying to me about how their relationship really was, because we all know that things are more complicated than they appear.
That was my first mistake, especially since I hadn't been in the dating game since Tinder even existed. He also said his mind was made up and he'd moved on. We connected and spent a few hours sipping beer and chatting. Him: married, seperated from the woman he had been with for more than eight years, with whom he shared a son. He also loved making plans that he had no intention of following through on. Maybe it was the night that he texted me, "Home with the ex and baby tonight. It was the way I wondered if they were sharing a bed.
They went to counseling and tried to make it work but they finally called it quits and she filed the paperwork.
When he was getting started with online dating sites (which was a brand new experience for him period) he was frustrated because he'd have decent conversation but then they bailed when he asked them out.
Depending on the woman, and the chemistry involved, I would date (and have dated) a seperated woman, but with the knowledge that quick rebounds rarely work, because she's just grasping for a lifeline and needing to feel loved again. There are lots of fully legally divorced people who aren't ready to start dating again. Their status in the eyes of the State is just a poor indicator of dating readiness.
I think people who haven't been through the divorce process themselves often don't realize just how long and drawn out it can be.