Dating living together

In a new paper, Bowling Green State University sociologist Karen Guzzo analyzes how the odds of cohabitation leading to either getting married or breaking up have changed over the years.

Before getting to her findings, let’s review some of the cohabitation trends she highlights in her report (based on prior studies): Guzzo notes, as have others, that cohabiting has become a normative experience in the romantic and sexual lives of young adults.

Some older couples are entering these nontraditional relationships after their first marriage ends.

Some will turn to living apart as a last resort for keeping their relationship together, Benson said.

Jacquelyn Benson, who teaches human development and family science at the University of Missouri, has studied the phenomenon of married and committed couples “living apart together” —keeping two separate households rather than cohabiting—in older adults and thinks the findings have applications for a younger demographic as well. In 1997, 5.8 percent of 18- to 29-year-olds were living together out of wedlock.

In 2011, that figure was up to 9.2 percent and continues to grow.

“We have this expectation in our society that to have a healthy relationship and to be satisfied… “That’s normative, that’s the stage you go through.” Our generation eschews the “one-size-fits-all” mentality.

So why do we have such fixed expectations for living together?

“It needs to be more of a change in mindset in a societal level,” Benson said.

Young adults are pushing the boundaries when it comes to relationships: we’re meeting each other using apps, getting married less and waiting to have children if we have children at all. The number of married couples in the in the country is at the lowest point since at least 1920, and the average marrying age is the highest its ever been, according to data from the Pew Research Center.

But despite shaking off some social norms, we’re still clinging to others: Living together, whether as a married couple or as committed partners, is still seen as a signifier of a healthy relationship, an important step to becoming a full-fledged adult. But cohabiting is on the rise—increasing by 900 percent over the past 50 years, according to the Council on Contemporary Families.

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