Dating my spouse
Here are a few of the specifics: • 23% of women said date night is about romance • 59% said date night is about getting back on the same page • 62% of the ladies said they always dress up a little for date night • 50% say the No.1 reason date night gets canceled is because they are too tired to go out Apparently I’m not alone in feeling exhausted and wanting to just stay home.Because I desire connection with my husband throughout the crazy seasons of family life, I’ve learned there is one particular thing I can do to stay in sync with Greg. The little ones in our home sometimes despair when they see Greg and me approaching the front door to leave together.Although I too often desire to pull on my PJ’s as soon as I arrive home in the evening, I’ve committed to put on my party dress and head out the door with my husband by my side. Sometimes I’m actually wearing the sweats I’ve had on for the last three days. I’ve learned from experience that intentional pursuit of my husband is worth the effort. But an extra 10-minute conversation with them, in which I explain the benefits of a date night for Mommy and Daddy, helps to calm them. I came across some statistics in a recent magazine on how women view date night.Unfortunately, I have seen this untruth destroy marriages.My marriage — and your marriage — needs regular attention, much like my minivan needs regular oil changes and tire rotations.Spend time in person observing what a romantic interest does. Successful schoolteachers report that being more rigid in September and easing up as the year continues is the best way to gain respect and trust.It’s always better to back down from a boundary you’ve built than to build one after someone has crossed the line. Love is a Two Way Street Make sure things are reciprocal.
Whereas women can sit down and have coffee and connect through conversation at an emotionally deep level rather quickly, guys typically do much better connecting emotionally when they are engaged in an activity.
They are both in it and that’s where they want to be. Trust in yourself that you’ll know when someone isn’t who he or she says they are.
A good sign you’re in a healthy relationship is when both of you are on the same page (or at the very least reading the same book—the last thing you want is to be with someone who thinks they’re reading The Story of O while you think you’re reading Danielle Steel). Keep it Real Fantasy is good fun but it can set you up for failure. In Cuba, there is a saying “When you’re in a hurry, slow down.” Let things progress slowly and naturally. And trust in yourself that no matter what happens you will prevail.
He tells me how much he likes me, I tell him how much I like him.” In other words, there isn’t game playing.
She doesn’t have to move away to get him to advance. Trust in yourself that you’ll carefully select a good guy.