Dating reason selfish
Not too long ago, I had the chance to see Yaron Brook, the executive director at the Ayn Rand Institute, give a talk on selfishness.
Before you roll your eyes and click over to the next best thing on the Internet, let me assure you this article is, ultimately, about sex. In case you’ve spent the last century under a rock, Ayn Rand was a devote capitalist, playwright and author who wrote two very famous novels, "Atlas Shrugged" and "The Fountainhead."Her work has been extensively debated, reviled and celebrated. He spoke about it in general terms, but for this article, I'm going to relate how being selfish applies to dating. We're all operating with our own best interests in mind, and anyone who vehemently declares he or she isn't selfish is essentially lying through his or her teeth.
She may want a relationship, but because of her job, she might not have that luxury. Let’s look at the other side of the coin for a moment.
Let’s say I like a woman a lot, and I want to keep seeing her.
Many women would tell me I’m selfish for wanting that.
But the second you try to unload your emotional stuff on him, he checks out. If he wants to try something a little different, he expects you to go along with it.
He doesn’t want to hear you complain about how crappy a boyfriend he is, so he does the bare minimum in order to avoid that discussion.
He wants you to be there for him but he doesn’t return the gesture.
When you’re in love, it’s easy to overlook or make excuses for your partner’s negative qualities. Every time you fight, you’re always the first one to say sorry — even if it wasn’t your fault.
After all, no one is perfect and he’s bound to have some less desirable traits because we all do. If his reaction to every single argument/disagreement is to try to de-escalate it as quickly as possible without even solving the issue because he really can’t deal with your feelings, he’s selfish AF. You apologize for stuff you didn’t even do because you know that’s the only way to end the argument.