Do your daughter dating loser
She will be staying with her friend for a month and then off to school in the fall. We fought over it alot, but finally I said I was done..she would have to suffer the consequences of his using and would have to learn for herself. I felt when she lived with me she had less responsiblilty.didn't pay rent, used most of her money to support him. The more she has to do for herself AND him, the more she will realize how much he is taking advantage of her, and she will see how much easier it was for her when she was living home because you made it easier. He is too immature and needs his mommy to take care of him as well. She was moved back in by the time we got home, and never talked to that slime ball again... She has to know that whatever the choice, the consequences go with it.All her friends told her he was a jerk, but when she moved out, she finally saw him for what he really was, dumped him and moved back home. I am hoping my daughter wakes up sooner than later. I tried to encourage her to save moeny to put money away and she would like but wouldn't show me her bank books. She should get a good dose of what being used is like now that she has to bear the brunt of all the responsibilities herself. It will be a good life lesson for her, and hopefully she will go on to make better choices in boyfriends in the future. I hope she sees that he is a master user/manipulator. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, and hopefully she'll meet a doctor or lawyer at college!I guess it was a good decision since she will be living on campus. I finally found the courage with alot of support to leave.Hopefully she will meet some new friends and find a new guy that will be better for her. It seems like everything that you tell them not to do, they do... I feel so much guilt because I was a bad role model. My daughter moved in with a girlfriend too, but the creep was there all the time, sponging off them, eating their food, sleeping there. So the pressure got to be more and more on her..was starting to look terrible, my beautiful daughter..tired and drawn.Sooner or later he will do something to open her eyes, or maybe she will meet someone at college and just dump his sorry behind! It’s the announcement every mother hopes she’s lucky enough to make. I don’t remember much else about why I actually went out with him. “My general advice is to be careful,” Lamble says, “you don't want to drive her further into his arms. Observe the slug pouring himself all over your baby girl.However, don't worry too much, there are millions of children from single-parent families making their way in the world very happily.She's just going to have to learn a lot of stuff about love the hard way.
You can't keep telling a adult how to manage their love life no matter how much you love them.My 20 year old daughter is dating an abusive, lazy, lying, cheating 23 year old. As a mother of a 19 and an 18 year old I could just imagine how difficult it must have been to tell her to leave. Like wendyrs said, it's a good decision that she will be living on campus... I guess most of us women on this Forum can say, been there and done that right along with you... Once she is out of the house, she may realize how much better she can be treated by someone who really cares for her. Her friends will tell her, and sooner or later she will see it for herself, but girls who date men like this usually have some form of self-esteem issues. the only thing that you can do is be there for her. But until she is ready to accept her mistake and change, you are talking to a blank wall... You see, we argued all the time last year because her grades were suffering and she was always out with him. It is best she leaves because we both need time apart and she needs to think without my pressure or my anxiety about him. The more you try and convince her what a louse he is,the more she will think she can change him. meaning forcing her to leave him may make her want him even more. a few people didnt want me with my ex monster b/f, and it upset me so i was determined to stay with him. I told her my door is open if she needs me and I love her and that this decision is the hardest one I have ever had to make. She left on good terms and has indicated she will be living on campus in the fall which is a blessing because she was apprehensive to do so before. sometimes, when you apply pressure people react badly.