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It’s surprisingly easy to explain to someone why you’re not drinking. Laura Silverman, 33, founder of The Sobriety Collective, says that most of her dates come from apps like Bumble and Tinder, so she can clearly state it in her profile that she doesn’t drink.
“This weeds out the crazy party animals and leaves me with social drinkers or guys who really don’t care much for booze,” she says. “I would make jokes like, ‘When I drink I tend to break out in handcuffs,’ which lightened the mood,” says Lucy Price of Victoria, British Columbia, cofounder of Sacred Recovery.
Sometimes regaining confidence can be an adjustment that takes some time. “My confidence in bed—both in my abilities and how I feel naked—has definitely experienced small growth spurts over the years,” says Silverman.
You’ll know whether you're actually ready to sleep with someone. It’s just you and your body and another person and their body. Instead of toppling into bed and hastily tearing off condom wrappers, you’re wide awake, every sense absorbing what’s happening inside of you and around you. Potter points out, in sobriety, the act of sex itself might be approached in a different way.
“Instead of an impulsive decision, there might be more of a buildup, and it will be a thoughtful graduation to a deeper and fuller relationship when it is the appropriate time,” he says.
While some are in recovery, an increasing number of women are going sober as a wellness and lifestyle choice.
Still, there's something daunting about the idea of dating without cocktails—for better or worse, booze The good news: Dating while sober can be just as good, something I found out firsthand when I gave up drinking and continued going out.