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Maybe they’re looking for someone to just do different things with. Maybe they’re using dating as a way to forget – to try and get over someone.
But they aren’t interested in a “we”, they don’t want something where there’s any sort of commitment or “feelings” involved.
Saying you are doesn’t mean you are going to marry them.
It just means that you are interested in THEM, and want to learn more.
Because I always thought that a shot at “we” was part of the goal for everyone. The chance to find that “someone”, who would be someone. Not everyone sees dating as something that could potentially develop into a relationship. For some (especially coming out of a long term relationship) dating IS the goal.
To find a person to share with, to build a love with that could last forever. They just want to meet different people, and feel attractive again.
If one person is hoping to find the love of their life while the other person is just looking for sex, someone will likely end up being hurt.
Back to the question about when dating becomes a relationship (casual to more serious), I guess this begs the question of what exactly a relationship is.
It means you don’t care who else may be out there, because right now – they are enough.
The question about when dating has gone from a casual thing to something more takes on additional importance when you are older, especially when you have come out of a long term relationship or marriage. I had never thought about that, but I think it’s true.
Not that my buddy Gandalf is a fur clad wildling woman, but hopefully you get the idea. I’m not sure if I necessarily look at the world through rose colored glasses, but I tend to look for the best in people and I can be too trusting.
I have long underestimated how much ego can come into play (in a bad way) when people make decisions, or maybe it’s more accurate to say when people simply act without making decisions; and how people can be willing to hurt others in order to get what they want.