Smart online dating tips
I know this election, in particular, has been extremely divisive, but this is not the time to start sharing your opinions on politics or any other possibly fiery topics. We just avoid those topics because we are adults and enjoy our friendship. The woman you’re talking to is a human being, not an object. I know men tend to just say what enters their heads without passing it through a filter.
If you draw out a position that is different from yours right off the bat, you might completely discount the person. It prompts interesting discussions and opens our eyes to multiple sides of an issue, so keep your convo light and fun at the beginning. It can be understandable in person when they get their wires crossed and trip over their tongue. When I am instructing my male clients, I tell them to imagine they are talking to their sister or grandmother at first. The flirting can come later after you’ve had a few emails or calls.
Etiquette | Texting & Messaging | Safety Growing up, my mother used to teach etiquette classes, so I grew up knowing which fork to use when, how to be chivalrous, and how best to communicate your ideas.
While I may have rolled my eyes about this as a teenager (who didn’t?!
Online dating, like anything else, has some etiquette rules everyone should follow.
It always amazes me how much people willingly disguise who they are online.
When you’re smitten, you want to know and learn everything about your new flame, and it can come across as needy and smothering.
Do what normal people do and just silently stalk them from the shadows! Nobody should be stalking anybody.) As with just about everything else, there’s a right way to message people through email and texting.
They sent a few texts back and forth, but then he started blowing up her phone. Biologically speaking, humans are pack animals, and to be accepted into the pack, we must be similar to the others in the pack.
We’re all saying these things because we think that’s what others want to hear, but the more you disguise yourself, the less chance you have of finding someone who’s totally into what you are into.
Author Laura Zinn opines, and I agree, “Be exactly who you are, though this means you’ll get rejected.” That is, until the person who loves everything about you comes along!
However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.
One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.